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Five dates?

By Gaveliers, The Gavel Media Team, on November 6, 2009 11:08 PM

It was late on that first Saturday, after hanging out with some friends, while walking on our way to another dorm, that I had one of the guys I had barely met an hour before, drag me aside from the group, right in front of lower and asked me to kiss him. It had barely been a week since I had decided I was going to keep myself from boys – an hour after I had met him. I pushed him away and ran back to my friends. I couldn’t believe it! Not only did the guy prove he was a total sleazeball, but the lack of outrage from anyone I have told this story to shows how us girls have allowed ourselves to be seen as common commodities. The guy thought a few brief sentences we had exchanged, a few drinks later, would be all it would take to make me kiss him.

Was it just me? Had I been giving him such strong slutty vibes? I have been told that I’m naturally a flirty person. I’m not shy and not afraid to talk to new people and approach guys at parties. There is, however, a fine line between harmless flirting and assuming that just because I laughed at your joke, I would automatically make out with you an hour after we have been introduced. That guy probably thought nothing more of me once I said no, and moved on as quickly as he downed his next beer. But what of the next girl he hit on? Did she say no to him?

I exchanged numbers with five people that night – five guys. It was like they had all heard I had vowed to not hook up and they were competing to see who would be the first to make me break my promise. Not one called to ask me out on a genuine date. I did get an invite to a MOD later on that night. But no dates. So it’s hook up at a party or stay single, I guess.