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Ask the Gav': Mind Change

All of us, whether we'd like to admit it or not, have altered our views on some issue at a point in our lives. For some, it could be a major tenet of their identity; for others, it could be overcoming a vapid dislike of pasta. Below, Gavelers explain something they’ve changed their minds on, whether it’s a big or small issue.

Jack Clark, Opinions Editorial Assistant

A small change I had made in life is that I began expanding my horizons with regards to my music taste. Growing up, I never really listened to any music besides the songs that were on the radio. However, towards the end of high school I began listening to artists such as Bon Iver, Mt. Joy, Oasis, The Head and the Heart, and so on. Now, I cannot honestly recall the last time I listened to the radio as I immerse myself in the variety of Spotify playlists I have created throughout the past few years.

Morgan Jemtrud, Copy Editor

People who know me know that I am proud of my progressive politics and of my lesbian identity, but that wasn’t always the case. I grew up in a Kentucky small town and was indoctrinated in the conservative culture to the point that I remember being disappointed when gay marriage was nationally legalized because it was “wrong.” After making friends who weren’t from my conservative church youth group, my opinion changed—I believed it was cruel to deprive people of their right to marry based on who they loved. However, it wasn’t until I moved to Boston that I had the space to reflect and realize that I didn’t just support the LGBTQIA+ community—I was a member. I spent a long time being embarrassed and ashamed of where I came from, but I’m learning to be proud of my growth, both in my social and self awareness. 

Sarah Tham, Opinions Associate Editor

For the first roughly eight years of my life, I felt, with the utmost conviction, that elbow pasta resembled armpits more than they resembled elbows—a terrifying concept. Suspicious that my parents continued to call it elbow pasta, I concluded that they were simply trying to get me to eat armpits—and I had no intention of tolerating that kind of disrespect. Every time I so much as saw armpit pasta, I would melt into a screaming puddle of uncontrollable tears and refuse to let it get near me for fear of what I believed to be my imminent poisoning. Pasta. I said no to pasta. Pasta that tastes like every other kind of pasta but held the detested shape. 12 years later, I gotta say the stuff tastes pretty good.

Keaden Morisaki, Managing Editor

I used to think that in relationships, people were either right or wrong for each other. That you just had to find the right people, the best matches for you. This could be a romantic relationship, or it could be with friends, parents, co-workers, or instructors and pupils. But people are products of their environment, and they can change as a result of the people they’re around. Admittedly some people are able to get along more easily than others, and maybe this is what we call people being “right” or “good fits” for each other. Still, it’s unlikely that even two people who we might say are “perfect for each other” will never butt heads. But if their relationship falls apart at the first sign of conflict, then how strong was the relationship to begin with? It’s unlikely that you never fought with your childhood best friends, and is probably the case that you put in the effort to resolve your issues. I am convinced that any relationship can work if everyone involved is willing to put the necessary effort in. This brings to mind the steady increase in divorce rates over the last couple decades. For older generations, marriage was forever; for younger ones, the idea of divorce is a reasonable thing to do if the marriage isn’t going well. I’m not trying to say that we need to lower the divorce rate. In some cases the effort that might go into the relationship just isn’t worth it. But, I think that instead of trying to find the perfect spouse or partner for ourselves, we should find the people who are going to be worth the effort to keep in our lives. 

As you read this, I'm probably eating popcorn, napping, or playing Mario Kart. Or some combination of the three.